I read about some social rules on the internet, and thought this would be a good idea to collect some of these general ideas, and organise my thinkings in this area.
According to Wikipedia ,
Social Rules, or Social Norms, are shared standards of acceptable behaviour by groups. Social norms can both be informal understanding that govern the behaviour of members of a society, as well as codified into rules and laws.
Social rules can be applied to multiple areas, not only your workspace, but also your daily life.
- Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it.
- It shows your integrity and character.
- Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.
- Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior.
- You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.
- If you take a taxi with a friend and they pay now, try paying next time.
- Respect different shades of opinions.
- Remember what’s 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative.
- Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
- Praise publicly. Criticize privately.
- Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO.
- Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.
- Appreciation remains the easiest way of getting what you don’t have.
- Don’t call someone more than twice continuously.
- If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.
- My philosophy is somewhat similar like aforementioned. I would always assume people have full packed agenda with other things, in accompanying with that I always send a message proactively to check people’s availability before calling someone.
- Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don’t you buy a car?
- For God’s sake it isn’t your problem.
- Don’t awkward others, or yourself!
- Never interrupt people talking.
- Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all.
- Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
- If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again.
- It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you’re.
- There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight.
- Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.
- When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right.
- You never know what’s next, and you never want to know that!
- If a colleague tells you they have a doctors’ appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say “I hope you’re okay”.
- Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness.
- If they want you to know, they’ll do so without your inquisitiveness.
- Just be a genuine person to everyone.
- If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.
- Never give advice until you’re asked. People won’t take, or appreciate your words until they need them.
- When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary.
- Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it.
- Don’t step on others toes, but also don’t be afraid to provide help to others.